One of the most talked about topics as a new parent is sleep. Specifically, how do I get my baby to sleep? I was one that struggled with this immensely in the beginning. It got better as time went on.
I wasn’t one that really bought into the whole sleep training idea. Having said that, I do have a book on sleep that’s been a helpful reference periodically.
I read a magazine article yesterday about sleep that annoyed me. It reminded me of something I ready shortly after Hailey was born that made me angry.
The article talked about there being no normal sleeping patterns for children under 2 years old and how there’s no evidence-based research to suggest that we as parents can do anything to train our babies to sleep.
If your baby is having trouble sleeping then not to worry. It’s completely normal.
Quite frankly, this stance annoys me and makes me downright angry.
How dare someone tell me that I’m powerless over my situation!
For me, reading this is like someone saying “there’s nothing you can do so don’t even try”.
What a powerless attitude.
I don’t care whether there is research or not. I want to feel like I have control.
I may not know exactly what I’m doing or how to solve the issue but I definitely want to feel like its possible for the situation to improve. I want to hear suggestions and examples of what other parents are doing that works.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
I may not be able to get my baby to sleep through the night but knowing that I have options and ideas to try makes me feel like I do in fact have some power and control over my situation.
In the beginning when Hailey was only sleeping 1 hour stretches, having someone tell me it was normal or that I just had to live with it infuriated me.
I refused to accept that.
So I tried everything and didn’t give up.
I had good success with energy treatments regarding Hailey’s sleep. Hailey’s sleep patterns also changed as the result of me changing my views of the situation.
So when it comes right down to it, I don’t care if there’s evidence-based research or not. All I care about is that I have some semblance of control over my situation.
Nobody wants to feel powerless.
One thing the magazine article did express that I whole-heartedly agree with is that there’s no right answer.
If the strategies suggested in sleep training books, by experts, or by friends makes you feel like a failure then stop.
You are not failing.
You are doing it right.
If you’re trying to figure out how to get your baby to sleep the number 1 thing you can do is experiment with different strategies. It’s all about being adaptable.
If one strategy doesn’t work, move onto another. It doesn’t mean you failed. It just means it wasn’t the right move at that particular time.
If something doesn’t feel right then don’t do it. Even if everyone is telling you that you must let your baby cry it out to get results but it doesn’t feel right then don’t do it.
Use your intuition and always do what feels right to you.